R. Kelly Blames 'The Notebook' For His Divorce

There are a lot of telltale signs that your marriage might be headed for the cliffs: you stop having fun together, all you do is argue, separate beds, smashed dinnerware.

But because he's a singular individual who always does things in ways nobody else could even dream of, R. Kelly has revealed that the catalyst behind his divorce from wife and former back up dancer Andrea Kelly was Ryan Gosling.

No, the star of VH1's new reality series "Hollywood Exes" didn't step out on Kelly with the hunky big screen star. In fact, it was Kells himself who decided to pull the plug after an emotional few hours with the "Drive" actor.

Pay attention now. According to Kelly's new memoir, the awesomely titled "Soulacoaster, The Diary of Me," the singer says Andrea was never on board with putting her dance career on hold to be a stay-at-home mom. The couple wed in 1996 and had three children together before divorcing in 2009 after 12 years of marriage and weathering the storm of Kelly's trial for child pornography
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But after too many fights to count — including one in which Mrs. Kelly chucked her $50,000 wedding ring into a pond in the couple's backyard — Kelly had an epiphany after watching the 2004 Gosling weeper "The Notebook."

The cheesetastic adaptation of the Nicholas Sparks novel about a young 1940's couple who fall madly in love, only to be torn apart by her disapproving parents. Despite her engagement to another man, their true love prevails and, well, we don't wan to spoil it, but let's say tears will be shed.

Just ask Kelly, who writes that the story of true love waiting got him so emotional that, "as the film credits started to roll, I couldn't move. I burst into tears. People walking past me patted me on the back, trying to console me. 'The Notebook' was beautiful, and I was crying because its hero and heroine had died together. But I was also crying because I remembered a Valentine's Day -- when a helicopter dropped a rainfall of roses -- that had come and gone ... My marriage had died. And there was nothing I could do to bring it back."